08/13 - Recap

Thank you Ladies!
As this was quite a session with another "bloom" moment.
We started off with announcement that starting next week, our session will run from 9:15 to 11am. Then we dove right in with our discussion continuing from the finance. The ladies agreed that "you must be happy on your own  before getting together with someone else for relationship and to be that happy, you must work on yourself by doing all the necessary things to clear problems in your own life first before getting into a relationship" - some of the examples of things to do to make yourself happy include:
     - taking the time to know yourself, being honest in determining what makes you happy,
     - clearing up your credit history
     - getting a job
     - living within your means or what you and only you get afford on your own
     - determining the type of person you want in a partner for a relationship, ... etc.
Then the 1st question from one of the lady was: "Would you date someone who owes child support?" "No, for a serious relationship"; "ok for just casual relationship"; and "depends on the story and the circumstances involved" - this last one got the consensus of many ladies.
As the discussion subsided, some feelings that the ladies have been hiding away came up to surface with one of them finally saying out loud her feelings about the families that have  been asked to leave the shelter due to various reasons that the ladies can only speculate about. With a kind reminder of no gossiping, we focused more on their feelings about the event. The following are some of how they felt:
 * a wake up call to watch attitude, to re-focus back onto goal
 * sad to see them go
 * hurt
 * mixed feelings (feels that some deserve it but not others and yet sad to still see them leave)
 * scared - unexpected, shocked as didn't see it coming
 * really hurt for the kids as they were heartbroken to suddenly lose their friends
 * gave a reminder that you are in a glass house being watched constantly
Session ended in the middle of this discussion.
My take:  I intend to continue a bit more with their feeling next week before diving back into our regular discussion.  - See questions for next week.