Today was quite an interesting session.
We had a very engaging exchanges about finances in the couple/partners relationships.
The role and the degree of financial contribution partners must bring into the relationship.
We debated questions such as: should a potential partner's financial stability factor into the decision to have and keep the partnership? Should it always be the men only to provide? ... etc.
In the midst of the exchanges, we had a "bloom" moment. - one of the lady voiced her opinion equaling marriage to 'legalized prostitution' where the stay-at-home-wife is exchanging her services for her husband's needs and wants. Needless to write about the reactions that followed. I call this a 'bloom' moment because it offered an opportunity to friendly remind the ladies that no matter how hurtful someone's opinion might be, we have the power to chose how much or how deep it affects us. And also that, there is always more to the story than the obvious and that should factor into how deep we let others opinion's affect us. - That was our bloom moment.
Then we went back to discussing finances in couple relationship.
We concluded the session with the following:
* $$$ must be seriously discussed before things get serious between partners
* Not to undervalue the importance of $$$ in a relationship
* recognize that $$$ (its excess or lack thereof) do change/affect people
My Take: To the ladies' question: what is my opinion on finance in couple? I responded that my opinion is evolving and changing as I grow and change. However, it is my belief that no matter what, a lady must have her source of income, or at minimum, acquired the education, knowledge, and marketable skills that she can put to use should she need to.
And to also be and stay true to herself and not lie to herself just to satisfy people's opinions.
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