Recap of 07/09

Since the categories mentioned in our previous session, are still to be done, by vote of hands, we decided to start our focus on communication within couples or the best communication with our partners.  - The question: Is there such thing as Too much communication, or too much information between partners?
For the Yes - vote: on the beauty of ex, or other opposite sex-people
                             on body functions such as jokes with farting, pooping, ... etc
                              on especially confidential health info about own-family members
For the No - vote: even communication about ex(es) are important because they give an insight into who the partner is, they provide opportunity to learn the characters of the partner.


My take - on this, goes with the Ewe-say: "too many meats never spoil the sauce" - Thus, NO there is no such thing as too much communication or TMI between partners. ( will elaborate later as this sub-session comes to its end.)

To be continued.....

Notes of 07/02

We started with: What is the best relationship you should be having with your partners? (Partners = lover, spouse, companion, any form and shape and conception of partners WITH commitment).
The followings are the responses:
Same parenting style
Cordial
Trust ****
Respect ****
Communication ***** (effective conflict resolution, no verbal, or psychological/mental abuses)
Stay true to yourself * (being yourself)
Maintain self freedom
Feeling safe
Passion
Unconditional Love without judgement
Forgiveness
Support for each other
Good relationship with in-laws *
Affection
Attention
Having fun
Being and feeling Valued **
No Co-dependency
No Hate
No Poisoning
Intimacy
Honesty
Boundaries
Equal Responsibilities
Compromise
Similar interest
Same level of intelligence * (IQ)
Happiness**
Listening
Open relationship
Monogamy* (Faithfulness)
Financial Stability**
Commitment **
Same Religion
Religion Tolerance
Same Political Views
Same sexual drive

Theses, in my opinion, are to be organized into categories (as some are run-ons) in order to focus our  upcoming discussions and get more effective and efficient results from them.
So, do you see and can suggest the categories in which we can organize these?


Chart as organized at our 07/09 session:

Values Communication *****(effective conflict resolution no verbal, or psychological/mental abuses) Same parenting style No Co-dependency Honesty Similar interest Same level of intelligence * (IQ) Open relationship Monogamy* (Faithfulness) Commitment ** Same Religion Same Political Views Cordial Trust **** Respect **** Forgiveness Good relationship with in-laws * Having fun Religion Tolerance Compromise Listening Boundaries Stay true to yourself * (being yourself) Maintain self freedom

Finance Financial Stability** Support for each other Equal Responsibilities

Emotion / Others Feeling safe Passion Unconditional Love without judgment Affection Attention Being and feeling Valued ** Happiness** No Poisoning No Hate Same sexual drive Intimacy

06/25 Recap

Today, in our 2hrs session, we finish the discussion on relationship with our kids with the promise to ourselves that we would try a positive discipline instead of a negative punishment. In small steps, we will try one change at a time.

Then, by vote, we decided to move on to "relationship w/our partners" - This will be our next week session discussion.